WHEN PEOPLE DON’T LIKE WHAT YOU SAY
Unitarian Universalist Church of
Augusta
Rev. Dr. Gaye Ortiz
September 21 2014
May this synagogue be, for all who enter,
the doorway to a richer and more meaningful life.
Our
opening words this morning are adapted from a prayer from a Reform Jewish prayer
book, and they are sentiments that we all have in our hearts as we gather
together in worship. After all, what would we be here for, if not to do as our
3rd principle asks, to affirm and promote acceptance of one another and encouragement to spiritual growth
in our congregations?
The last 3 words there - in our congregations -
are important, because anyone could follow their own spiritual path. One of the
blessings of membership is taking on the responsibility of encouraging our
members to grow spiritually alongside each other. And as members we covenant
with one another. Covenants began in the ancient world as a way of contracting
between rulers and their people, and they are important in Judeo-Christian
history and theology. And when our religious forebears settled in this country,
they kept the free church tradition alive by creating covenants such as the
Cambridge Platform of Church Discipline, which was written by the New England
Puritans in 1648 in Cambridge, Massachusetts. It is a covenant of mutual
promise.
We pledge to walk together
In the ways of truth and affection,
As best we know them now
Or may learn them in the days to come,
That we and our children may be fulfilled
And that we may speak to the world
In words and actions
Of peace and
goodwill.
Reading our
covenant aloud this morning, I wonder if you were reflecting on the obligation
that you are asked to assume. After all, a covenant is a promise, and it’s a
tool that helps us to reconcile ourselves within the community when we fall out
of covenant.
Assuming good
intentions is hard for a lot of people; we automatically think the worst when
we hear things – usually from someone else – that a person has done. When we
don’t agree with what we’re hearing, we begin to think negative or even awful
things; we form assumptions that, if we were to voice out loud to that person,
would quickly prove to be false assumptions. The covenant gives us a measuring
stick; we can ask ourselves: when I am feeling this way, is it going against
what I promised to do? Can I give this person a break, and stop assuming they
are acting against my best interests or the church’s best interests?
So in our
congregation, when we have a problem, when we don’t like what someone says (or
what we’ve heard they’ve said), instead of fuming silently, or expressing our
anger to someone else in the parking lot, we are urged to approach the person
with whom we differ directly – assuming good intentions – to ask them to speak
with us about what is concerning us. Using ‘I’ statements, not interrupting
people when they are trying to answer your question, not judging others by what
they say…these are familiar parts of a behavioral covenant, heard in meetings
of a committee or the board, that many of us feel are vital to ensuring
respectful communication in congregational life.
Wouldn’t it be
grand if everyone everywhere lived by a covenant of right relationship? I am
not saying that everyone here abides fully by the covenants they affirm…but we
at least have the ability to be called back to our best selves, because the
covenant exists, for us, as a living document.
Unfortunately,
today I am speaking to the topic of ‘when people don’t like what you say’
because we as Unitarian Universalists need to reflect on how we deal with the
feelings we – and what we say and do – evoke in people who disagree with us.
People who feel threatened by our tolerance, our inclusivity, our liberal
religious and creed-less faith tradition. Those who, in contrast to our opening
words, do not value our invitation
to all who enter our church to see it as “the doorway to a richer and more meaningful life”.
They may see it, instead, as a pathway to godlessness, to immorality, to false
prophets, and of course, to damnation and hell. You may well know people who
think that about us; some of you may have family members who think that, and
this surely weighs heavily upon your hearts this morning.
On
a Sunday morning in mid-July, to use the words of Krista Taves, “something pretty scary happened at the First Unitarian
Universalist Church of New Orleans. Members of
Operation Save America, a fundamentalist anti-choice organization that (Taves
says) is known for descending upon abortion clinics and making life a living
hell for anyone coming or going”, showed up as if to attend the church service.
During the service they began to verbally harass the worshippers and to try to
push anti-abortion pamphlets into their hands. Imagine being in the sacred,
silent space of meditation just as we do every Sunday following Joys and
Sorrows, and suddenly hearing shouts of “Abomination!”
“You are going to hell!” (http://www.latimes.com/local/abcarian/la-me-ra-antiabortion-fanatics-invade-a-church-service-20140723-column.html#page=1)
What
happened next was probably not what they expected to happen, because that
Sunday the church was commissioning youth leaders of the UU College of Social
Justice.These young people immediately circled around the protesters and began
singing. The minister asked the protesters to respect the worship space and
take their protest outside, and at that church leaders began guiding them out
of the sanctuary. The police were called, and they arrived ready to intervene
should things turn violent. The
director of religious education made sure the children were safe; unfortunately
the protesters had surrounded the church and had identified the RE rooms. They
pressed graphic pictures against the windows, so the children were moved to an
inner room. A note was left on the classroom doors for parents so they would be
aware of where the children had been taken.
The
minister, according to Taves, continued with the service, preaching “about how
fundamentalism offers only one path of truth, whereas liberal religion
recognizes a diversity of paths, and that this offers us a significant way to
engage the challenges of our world.” Once the service finished, Planned
Parenthood came to escort congregants safely back to their cars.
As we know, especially from being
in the Bible Belt, the radicalized anti-choice movement is supported
increasingly by right-wing politicians, and feels empowered to threaten women’s
reproductive rights through legislation as well as public protest. Many of us
UUs are members of Planned Parenthood; some have been present to demonstrate on
behalf of women’s reproductive rights. We should all know that Planned
Parenthood is in the front line of protecting women’s rights and are publicly
vilified for doing so.
The Supreme Court recently ruled
against safe boundaries of protest, so that anti-choice protesters can engage
in intimidating behavior without buffer zones, inciting violence against
abortion providers and those women who choose to use their services as they are
entitled to do under the law.“
But spreading their message of hate wider, they violated
the sacred space of sanctuary… “or
as Benham described it on his website, “presented the truth of the Gospel in
this synagogue of Satan.”” (LA Times)
And as Taves says, “This protest was a violation of our
sacred space, and when I say “our” I mean it. We Unitarian Universalists
are in sacred covenantal relationships of mutuality. When one
congregation is violated in this way, we are all violated.” Not only that, but
the deep religious vein that runs through American civic life respects the
sanctity of the sanctuary; I believe that Operation Save America did itself and
its cause no favors by invading a worship space, because many Americans will be
appalled at this display of disrespect for religious freedom of worship.
The minister who led the service and kept her head was
Deanna Vandiver; she calls the protesters ‘religious terrorists’ who have made
us targets in the process of trying to achieve their goals by violent means. At
least the confrontation in the New Orleans church that morning did not turn
violent, due in large part to the non-anxious reaction of those UUs present for
the service. There was no yelling or pushing back, but there was an affirmation
through the actions and the voices of the young people lifted up in song. There
was a naming of what was going on by the minister from the pulpit and a request
to behave appropriately. Then there was action to protect the children, secure
the building, and call for help.
This is National Preparedness Month. Maybe this is an
appropriate sermon to preach in that case. No one wants to think that we need
to be prepared for something like the sanctuary invasion in New Orleans, but
there are practical things we can take away form that morning’s disruption.
First, name what is happening. I will not always be in
the pulpit, so our Worship Associates also need to able to give clarity to the
moment: “What is happening at this moment is that someone is trying to disrupt
our service; please respect the sacred space of this sanctuary.” Rev. Vandiver
herself did not at first comprehend what was happening, and before she heard
the words they were using she thought the shouting was from someone who didn’t understand the congregation’s tradition of
silence during meditation. So telling others clearly from the pulpit also
relieves anxiety of those who cannot understand what is happening, and this
could be for several occasions when there is a disruption in the sanctuary.
The second thing is to have a protocol kicking in, for the
church leaders – greeters or board members, who know they are responsible for physically
removing the people who are disturbing the service; third is to make sure everyone
is safe and secure. At our church safety briefing this week, we discussed the
importance of locking the kitchen door when the service begins every Sunday, a
new element of safety prevention that will begin next month. Of course there
will be people arriving late, but they will need to use the front entrance.
Leaving the back door unlocked provides easy access to our RE wing, and even
people sitting in the conversation corner listening to the service will not be
able to stop someone with violent intent from entering. So that would be one
less action needed to secure the building in an emergency.
New Orleans UUs feel that this incident has not created
a bunker mentality where they are afraid of being under attack, but instead are
driven out even more into the wider community. Their social justice committee
is called the community ministry team, and that name is proving to be quite
accurate. They said on the VUU that they are being seen as people of faith
because of their social justice stand, and that instead of ‘defending
sanctuary’ they are ‘expanding sanctuary’ to disenfranchised and marginalized
elements of the wider community. Meanwhile, there has been no outcry from
conservative Christian groups who usually are very sensitive to restrictions on their religious freedom of expression…and
you might have heard that the office of the Democratic mayor, Mitch Landrieu,
backtracked and said that in error he had issued a proclamation praising
Operation Save American for its ‘outstanding service to the city of New Orleans’!
As members of a Unitarian Universalist congregation in
the South, where sometimes we may feel isolated, we do have support even though
it may seem quite lonely at times. We have a cluster of UU congregations, the
closest being our sister congregation on Aiken. The spirit of the Cambridge
Platform still lives in the relationship that we can continue to grow with
their members. The relationship that we have with other area communities of
faith, through the Progressive Religious Coalition and the Interfaith
Fellowship of Augusta, is also a source of support. And we are of course a
source of support to them: yesterday in meeting with the Interfaith Fellowship,
I heard the Imam of the Islamic Center talk about recent threats phoned in to
their center threatening on the eve of 9/11 to burn copies of the Koran. We
agreed that continuing our efforts together to educate the community about
faiths other than Christianity is the important work we need to do.
Our support for religious freedom is crucial to our
identity as Unitarian Universalists. The price we pay for our dedication to our
faith has always been the threat of violence – from the early days when Michael
Servetus and Francis David paid with their lives, Joseph Priestley being burned
out of his home, Rev. James Reeb and Viola Liuzzo martyred during the civil
rights struggle. Even in the history of this church – for example, the creation
of the Open Door kindergarten and the threats we faced – we have known the
threat that liberal religion poses to prejudice and intolerance.
What else can we do but circle round for freedom? In the
words of Edward Frost, “It would be far worse for us if, in our fear, we doused
the fire and ran, alone, into the dark.” Let us pledge today to circle around
the light of freedom, inclusion, compassion, and love that our chosen faith
provides for us.
May it be so, Blessed Be, Amen.
GW Ortiz, 9/21/2014